1. Stop comparing yourself to others!
Comparison is the thief of joy, nothing good ever comes from it. Comparing yourself to others is one of the worst things you can do, as it can often lead to feelings of low self-worth, self-esteem and confidence. It is unfair on yourself to compare your chapter 1 to someone else’s chapter 20, you are at different stages in your journey, you have done different things to get there so there really is no comparison.
2. Remove the negativity from your life
You are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with, so if those people are nothing but negative then of course that will rub off on you. It is so easy to get caught up in negativity in your life if you are seeking approval from others instead of yourself.
We should only ever focus on how we feel rather than how others feel about us, as that is none of our business and should have no effect on us. In order for it to become about you, you have to make it about you and you alone, others opinions shouldn’t change how you feel or act, it is your decision how you feel about something.
3. Boost that Confidence!
Have you ever said to yourself I’ll be confident when I’m successful, when I reach this goal?? But do you know what, you have it the wrong way around – you will be successful because of your confidence, its not what happens after success it is what leads to success.
Don’t apologise for your confidence, I know you may be scared of being perceived as arrogant and even scaring other women off but true confidence is actually one of the most attractive qualities in a person.
4. Turn failures into learning opportunities!
In life there are no failures, you’ve just discovered a way that didn’t work. Taking the positives from situations rather than the negatives will lead to you becoming more aware, and more positive in your thoughts and actions. Asking yourself why did this happen? What can I learn from this happening? How did I feel about what happened?
5. Trust yourself and your decisions
You have to have the belief in yourself to make the right decisions for you. Trust in yourself that you can do this. If you feel you need to earn trust, you are in a state of doubt already and are in defence mode, feeling the need to defend your thoughts and actions rather than just trust that you made the right one. Start from a loving and trusting place, trust until you are given a reason to distrust.
6. Be Grateful
Practicing daily gratitudes. Often we can find ourselves only feeling grateful in big moments such as getting that job you’ve always wanted, but we forget the little things in our daily lives that we are grateful for and we don’t even think about them, such as breathing, getting a good nights sleep, eating a delicious meal, or talking with a friend.
Each morning or evening write down 3 things you are grateful for, spend 5 minutes just thinking about them to yourself. Smile after you’ve thought of each one and really bring that emotion into the act.
7. Take Action
In order to make a change you must take action; instil some sort of change in your life. Fear is something that holds people back, but that is us believing that we need to be perfect and that our actions need to reflect that. Try and step away from the all or nothing attitude. When we aim for perfection, what do we achieve? Nothing. If we are aiming for perfection it can kill productivity as you’re so focused on getting it perfect rather than done. We are chasing something that doesn’t exist, we are forever planning, thinking and working away towards something that doesn’t exist, we are fooling ourselves.